Friends. They make the world go round. They can turn a frown into a laugh with just a word. The can transform a terrible day into the greatest one ever with an old joke. They pick you up when you’re down, and lift your spirits.
But what if they don’t do that? What if instead of lifting you up and supporting you, you feel like they drag you down, and turn crappy days into worse ones?
Simply put, you have to let go of them.
I know it’s hard to accept, but sometimes, you have to cut out those toxic friends in order to be happy.
For example, I have this “friend”. She’s a pretty cool person, we have a lot of similar interests, but there’s something that’s kind of been bothering me about her lately.
This friend, she’s the type that teases you. And yes, I understand that this is normal, but sometimes, her fun teasing goes a little too far, because the words she uses, are the same words that I heard from the bullies, the same words that were meant to tear me down.
And when your “friend” starts making fun of you, in front of your classmates, teachers, and people who really didn’t need to hear about how “pathetic” I am, you start to wonder if this friend is worth having around.
Of course, this doesn’t call for immediate elimination of this friend. Communication is the key in all relationships, so talk to him/her first. Tell the friend that her behavior upsets you, and ask her to stop. This could all be a mistake, and maybe they didn’t realize the consequences of their words.
And if that has no effect, you should probably sever ties. This doesn’t necessarily mean a confrontation. Try to slowly distance yourself from that friend and hang out with other people more. Because if they were bringing you down, they’re not worth it.
And you deserve better.
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