Have you ever felt unwanted or unseen but still insisted on trying to make others care about you?
Do you try to force relationships, and cannot let people go?
If so, my friend, let me introduce you to the “let them” theory and outlook on life.
The let them theory is a way of thinking that isn’t new, just more popularized in part due to the best-selling book by Mel Robbins.
The core of this mindset revolves around personal growth and harnessing your own energy. As humans, we often struggle for control and do everything in our power to influence the outcomes of certain events. However, in actuality, this perceived control only makes us feel less secure and satisfied with our lives.
The belief prides itself on self-focus and personal responsibility. For instance, if your friends hang out without you, let them. If your crush ignores you, let them.
Embracing the fact that there are limits to your control, and letting things unfold naturally actually the greatest action of self-love you can enact. When we try to shape others’ behaviors or persuade people to act in the way we would like, we disappoint ourselves.
This theory is based on psychological research and cognitive studies that judge relationship health and personal satisfaction. This theory can help people feel less anxious due to the acceptance they feel towards things they cannot control.
When attempting to force relationships, it only makes them feel further away. This breeds frustration and contempt. By simply letting certain things go and accepting the fact that you can only control yourself, you become “free.”
This theory, in short, enables individuals to feel at ease in their own lives and let go of things that do not serve them.