Dear Lover,
Some people say that the universe creates things in perfect synchrony, the same reason many people believe in religion, what is the possibility that I fell for and met the perfect person for me. What are the odds they actually exist? Everything in the world sits like a huge puzzle, just yearning to be put back together. To be found. Everyone has a puzzle piece they fit perfectly with. Someone they see themselves in. They say you only feel this way once in your life, and you zing. If you don’t cherish and take care of that zing, then what’s the use of life? Every person has a puzzle piece, they spend decades upon decades harping on broken relationships, trying to search. Trying to find their other half. I’ve done something many people spend their whole lives in pursuit of.
The pursuit of a mystery is truly a courageous one, because at the end of the day, you don’t know what you’re looking for. You never fail, but most times, you don’t find the thing that every soul contemplates their entire existence over. The concept of a twin flame has been around for a while, whether that be platonic, or romantic. The concept of a soulmate has been around forever. People dream of one day finding that perfect person, the one who finishes their sentences, but doesn’t leave them to die of an accidental frozen heart at the hands of their sister.
Instead, many people strive for the bare minimum, someone they can tolerate for the rest of their life. This may not be the person perfect for you, which is why divorce rates are so high. People enter lifelong commitments before knowing the person, and it eventually ends in failure. To avoid becoming a statistic, you must imply the notion of a theory that many philosophers have studied before. The theory of a soulmate in the modern world. The theory states that in order to find your twin flame, the person you could comfortably spend the rest of your life with, you must first find a person willing to change. A person who is willing to admit their flaws without using them to manipulate sympathy. A person who can admit their flaws is a more perfect person then the ones who actively choose to portray themselves as perfect. Eventually, that “perfect” persona falls, and when you cannot come to terms with yourself, you are left with a shell of a person who doesn’t understand how to be themselves, and doesn’t understand how to love themselves. You have the “perfect” person turn into nothing more than a pile of shards. Never touch broken glass.
The person who is willing to change is then moldable, but first you must understand the fact that changing and becoming the perfect person for someone is a multiple person activity. You must be willing to change for them. This is where the meat of the theory comes in. That soulmates are created and not found, because intrinsically, trying to find the absolute perfect person for yourself is impossible because everyone lives such a different life. Out of 7 billion people, you will never find your soulmate. Which is why you must create a healthy relationship in which you can foster your own twin flame. A relationship in which you are both willing to become the best versions of yourself for the achievement of a higher outcome. Instead of having stubborn opinions on everything, you must be able to be fluid.
Of course, you must first find a person you see yourself in. A person whose character is similar to yours in a way that’s complimentary instead of contradictory. And ultimately there is where you will find your own soulmate. They say that the concept of everyone having a perfect fit puzzle piece is completely correct, but I disagree. In order to find your own perfect puzzle piece, you must both be willing to change shapes, instead of just having one person mold to fit the bounds of the other piece, or jamming pieces that don’t fit together into a synchrony, knowing they won’t fit, but still attempting it, for the good of no-one, and instead you operate under the guise of actually making an impact.
Zinging doesn’t happen often, and this may just be my puppy love, but I am completely confident in saying that puzzle pieces must mold to fit each other, which is why I’ve done the seemingly impossible. So many people spend their entire life trying to fit themselves to the perfect person narrative, they spend their entire life in pursuit of love, instead of happiness, and not realizing those two terms are not interchangeable. You must first find love in happiness, not happiness in love, because at the end of the day, you must be willing to accept that love is never a universal answer. Millions of people ache for their soulmate, and I’ve done the impossible. I’ve found my puzzle piece.
With devotion,
Knight.