A few weeks back I received the magnificent opportunity to attend a documentary “Finding Kind” at the ConocoPhillips Auditorium thanks to Youth Central and Youth Are Awesome!
Finding Kind was a documentary regarding girls and the reasoning behind why they are so mean towards one another. Two girls decided to find the answer by going across the country to talk to different people-girls and guys about their perspectives. The two girls went around to promote kindness between girls, in schools, at houses basically wherever they could get the opportunity. They discovered a lot.
Well why? Why are girls so mean to each other?
1. It is fine when its just two of them but when there is three…it is a crowd. From the documentary we got to understand the true meaning behind all of this. Girls don’t like confrontation so instead they’ll go gossip to get the pain and hurt off their chest unknowingly or knowingly that they are hurting someone else in the process.
(Guys on the other hand just throw a couple punches, directly address their issues and go back to being brothers.)
2. It can also root from the mothers- what children see is what they learn from. If their mother gossips of course her daughter will establish the same character. It is a never-ending cycle.
3. MEDIA. Media portrays girls and friendships in such a negative way, which makes girls insecure in a lot of different ways. For example, TV shows represent the “normal girl or normal friendship” which teens follow as status quo, but in reality every friendship is different. Comparing yourself or your relationships to the ones on TV isn’t going to hep your friendship but rather hinder it. It is quite similar to people, no one is the same, we are all the same so why should we compare ourselves to models in magazines?
But what is the result of all this research, how can girls stop hating on each other?
Simply by being kind, like they say “if you don’t have anything nice to say..don’t say it!” Promote kindness and if you have an issue directly confront the person politely. Not every situation has to be dramatic. 😉
I myself have learned a lot from this documentary and it is fascinating to realize the different reasons behind the way I act, one primarily being media. I too have certain issues that need to be addressed- which I am working on. Today I challenge you to promote kindness and change yourself for the better. Girls can be friends without fights, we just need to think before we act. We can make the world a better place together.
Here is the trailer to this amazing documentary- Be sure to take a look!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woZTiMgWYDo
