Socially awkward moments happen to everyone, especially me. According to some friends of mine I am very socially awkward, so awkward that it’s hard for me to keep a conversation going with a person. Being socially awkward is something that hasn’t been a major problem for me, but I still show it because I find it very hard for me to introduce myself or hold up a conversation with other people. I see being socially awkward as a force that is generated by our own fears and worries of what others think. And how we see these situations, can prevent us from fully interacting with others out of fear of embarrassment.
But whether we like it or not, everyone has to learn how to deal with social awkwardness at some point in their life, especially if you’re more socially awkward than the average person. But don’t be afraid, because where there is a problem, there is indeed a solution, and there are definitely ways to overcome the feeling of being socially awkward.
Here are some ways I found and although I haven’t implemented all these steps into my life, I find it best to take progress in steps.
Worry less about what others think:
Worrying about what others think is a lot easier said than done. If we are worried about what a person will think, because of human nature, we try to live up to their expectations. But that is very straining and it rarely works out well in the end. You shouldn’t try to force it, but keep it natural and authentic by just being yourself.
Be friendly:
I personally find it hard to smile, but to make friends, you must smile. From what I’ve seen, people enjoy being around a nice and happy person. Even if you start mimicking happiness, it will eventually turn into something real and lasting because it will grow on you.
Be sure of what friendly gestures you want to make before you feel confused:
One thing I strongly dislike about being awkward is bad timing and hesitation when trying to greet someone. It’s very embarrassing to greet someone and end up doing 5 different hand gestures and in the end it ends up getting untouched. You should decide to either go for a fist bump, high five, hug, or don’t bother at all.
Ask questions:
Some people, like myself, aren’t predominantly very good at having lively conversations with others because we become nervous. Avoid babbling, stammering, and stumbling over your words because you can come off as a tense person. My advice is to let them talk. Because by listening, you are able to generate a response that is usually in form of a question. As a result you will grow more comfortable and feel compelled to discuss about yourself.
Being socially awkward isn’t a bad thing, but for that person who is more socially awkward than average; I hope these tips can help you.
great advice!
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